About Me

I have a wonderful husband, Jordec, and we have been married since 2007. We have a son, Eliot, who was born in 2008 and our daughter, Stella, was born in 2011. Stella passed away after two hours of life. We were told her death was going to happen while we were 5 months along in the pregnancy and we prepared as best as we could for her arrival and death. We will claim her and love her forever. As I tried to understand what was happening, I realized that there is not very much information out there about dealing with infant death and, more specifically, dealing with an impending death of your unborn child. It was difficult to navigate through the emotions while feeling alone and uninformed. As I try to figure out how to live life now that Stella is gone, I realized that the grief literature is also slim when it comes to infant death and, again, especially when it comes to impending unborn death. I felt that if nothing else, my thoughts might help someone else understand that they are not alone and that what they are going through has happened to someone else.

April 8, 2012

Quotes for Survival

These are some quotes that helped me while I was still pregnant with Stella to deal with her impending death.  They helped me to press on through the days with faith, hope, and love.  I hope they can be helpful to you and others.  I don't know the author of these, I got them from a website that didn't have them listed. God bless!

“Don’t cry because it’s over.  Smile because it happened.”
“Life is not about how many breaths you take, but about the moments that take your breath away.”
“I once held an angel in my arms, now I hold her in my heart.”
“A daughter is a beautiful reflection of God’s grace and love.”
“Before I formed you in the womb, I knew you.”
“Faith is when you close your eyes and open your heart.”
“God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change.”
“God’s little princess.”
“When God brings you to it, He will bring you through it.”
“Spirit is the essence of who we are.”
“A sister is a gift to the heart”
“It is because we are different that each of us is special.”
“I avoid looking forward or backward, and try to keep looking upward.”
“Faith is brightness in the midst of darkness.”
“Behold, children are a gift of the Lord.”

(ONE OF MY FAVORITES!)   -

"Happy moments, praise God.
Difficult moments, seek God.
Quiet moments, worship God.
Painful moments, trust God.
Every moment, thank God."

“I prayed for this child, and the Lord has granted me what I asked of Him.  So now I give her to the Lord”
“When someone you love becomes a memory, the memory becomes a treasure.”
(ANOTHER FAVORITE)  -  “There is sacredness in tears. They are not the mark of weakness, but of power. They speak more eloquently than ten thousand tongues. They are messengers of overwhelming grief, of deep contrition and of unspeakable love.”
"Missing someone gets easier everyday because even though you are one day further from the last time you saw them, you are one day closer to the next time you will."
“From the moment I saw you, my heart opened up to even more love.”
“Daddy, a daughter’s first love.”
“My finger may be tiny but I can still wrap my Daddy around it.”
“Always on our minds; Forever in our hearts”
(ANOTHER FAVORITE) - "God gave the most precious gift to me~ As He did so he whispered so tenderly, "This child I give you is not yours to keep, When I call her Home, please do not weep.  For I will take her by the hand, across my bridge of love, Together we will fly to my Golden Gates above, Where she can play in the sand, as soft as a sigh, The sun will always shine on her, in a summer blue sky, Her playmates will be Angels with gossamer wings, Her own spiritual mother, a sweet lullaby she sings, I'll welcome home, this child, so precious in my sight, She'll be safe at last, a child of Gods light.  So do not grieve when the time comes, she's forever in my care, Behind Heavens Doorway, she will wait for you there.”
"Sometimes love is for a moment. Sometimes love is for a lifetime. Sometimes a moment is a lifetime"
“I held you in my arms for 2 hours, now I hold you in my heart forever.”
"Be happy for this moment... this moment is your life."
“To live in hearts we leave behind, Is not to die”